First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage.
And then what?!
Having had my first child in April 2018, I was surprised at the various lessons along the way throughout the pregnancy, labour and postpartum period which people don’t tell you. What is shown in the movies pales in comparison to reality.
The postpartum period was a secretive/mystical world which you were meant to figure out as you go. The reality of it for me was that this was and still is the most challenging.
If I had been able to have some insight into what the overall journey is like before I even thought about getting pregnant, I would have found it invaluable. Especially the expectations we innately have of each period based on what we see around us.
So, I created this blog to share my personal experience with other first-time parents so that if you choose to go down this path, hopefully my experience can help you along the way.
The 3 biggest things I’d like to share through this blog are:
- You’re not alone: I hope by reading this blog, other parents can see that you are never alone – there is help and people going through the same thing everywhere.
- Good enough parenting: there’s a concept called the ‘Circle of Security’ (you can find it on Youtube and there’s a book too), which talks about being a good enough parent. I think most people [unconsciously] try to be perfect parents and that expectation places undue pressure on yourself, those around you and your baby. Let’s aim instead to be ‘good enough’
- Parenting is bloody hard, but it’s life changing and as a result, if you’re open to it, you can grow and become a better version of yourself (mentally and physically)
Please note: each person’s parenting journey is different to others and it’s a very personal one. Enjoy yours for what it is 🙂